I figured it's been a while since I've blogged about dating, relationships and the woes of the opposite sex so here you go, you're getting it again. This time I have a guest. Meet Liz. She's one of my favorites... Enjoy.
To the Boys:
Like seriously.. What's your deal? Girls don't want to just "hang out." Sure, we enjoy being around attractive men that we might not actually date (for whatever reason) but for CRYING OUT LOUD take us on out on a date every once and a while. The longer you wait, the more awkward, confusing and harder it will be to get yourself out of the inevitable "Friend Zone." We get sick of hearing the same old "I don't want too. what if she says no? I don't want to spend money on another man's wife." blah blah blah. If you aren't going to do anything about it then stop complaining. Ok? Ok.
We get it. We aren't bashing on just boys. We LOVE boys. I mean, LOVE them. But you have a hard job. You have to ask the girls out, spend the money (yes, we said $$), and usually make the first move. That sucks. BUT sorry..That's just life. So we're just saying, don't waste time because you're afraid of rejection. It's going to happen, it's going to hurt, but you move on and you try again. Most likely you will end up counting your blessing that you didn't end up with [that one girl] anyways. You'll find her, she's out there... you just have to keep trying.
And here's another thing... Take a look in the mirror and ask yourself "what makes me think that I should get girls that are "Victoria Secret runway model-esque." Get. Real. It's probably not going to happen. Yes, we hope that you end up with someone who is "gorgeous" to you. But for every Jack there's a Jill.. so why can't you just find someone who is equally attractive, equally weird, and equally dumb? That's not settling at all--it's realistic.
So if getting a girl friend is something you are looking for right now, then get that cute little behind of yours off the couch, turn off sports center (or whatever it is that you're watching) and do something about it. Be real. Be straight forward--be a man.
To the Girls:
Can you please FOR THE LOVE stop making things so complicated?! There is no need to over analyze every situation (not saying that boys don't do this too ;)) Be realistic about the situation. Maybe he likes you, maybe he doesn't, but you aren't going to know until he tells you or asks you out so there's no need to stress about it or cause drama until you know for sure. Chill.
Boys can't read your mind. They don't know what you want or what you're thinking. If you don't say it, they don't know it... So say it.
Give boys props. They have a hard job (as read above) but if the kid shows that he's interested, help a brother out. Show you're interested too. Chances are that he won't keep trying if you aren't reciprocating anything. But be careful with that one. You don't want to be overwhelming. Don't throw yourself at him...that makes you look desperate and pathetic. Meet him half way.
Why are some girls so clingy? Whatever happened to taking a day with the girls or letting the BF go out for a night with the boys? You need your girl time and he needs his man time. It's important to be away from each other every now again.. if not, you might find yourself getting annoyed with each other which usually results in being super nitpicky about each other's flaws. Take a time out here and there. And really? What if things don't workout with homeboy? You want to make sure you have friends to fall back on. Don't let those relationships dwindle. Plus, the friends are probably more fun every now and again anyways.
Lastly, If a guy asks you out on a first date...say yes. The poor guy worked up the courage to ask you out. So go. You never know, it might turn out to be a lot of fun. By not saying yes (unless you know he's a murder or something) you are being shallow because you are basically saying he's not good enough, and you didn't even give him one chance. But that brings us to the second date rule. If you know you're not interested at all after the first date. Don't go on the second. We've met plenty of guys who would just rather be told straight up. Don't waste his or your time. But, if you aren't sure about it and want to see where it goes, then go. That's how dating works and how you get to really know someone.
Oh, and just because he asks you out. Doesn't mean he wants to marry you. So let's squash that way of thinking real fast. K? Thanks.
Well, that's pretty much all that we have right now but you can guarantee that we will be back again with some kind of bidness. So for now...
Go get 'em tiger.
Oh, and we're single. just kidding. I mean, but not kidding...
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