My "long, scattered, weird explanation/pep talk about the dreaded Friend Zone" post

Before I start going off on the subject matter at hand, I first want to clarify that this post is not referring to the "woe's of life from Jennifer Hansen."  In fact, it finally has nothing to do with my personal life at this moment at all. [hallelujah].  However, let's be honest, we've all been there.  We all know how terrible it is. I mean, it's in almost EVERY chick flick on the planet.  It's.....

*insert creepy sound effects*

I recently re-watched the movie "Just Friends."  Funny movie, right?  Light Bulb!--what a perfect topic :) SO here you go...

The number one reason I've found that most people find themselves super snug in the Friend Zone is that they simply waited too long to make a move.  Some hold onto their "more than friends" feelings and never make the move because they are:
1--Too chicken to confront the situation.
2--Don't want to work for it because it seems too hard.
3--Afraid of rejection.
4--They "don't want to ruin what they already have" with that friend.
5--They question where the feelings really come from.  "Maybe it's just because I'm around her all of the time?" or "Maybe it's just because he 'gets' me better than any other guy?" uhhh hello? What do you think that means?!

Do any of these sound familiar? Most likely.  But the above reasons aren't always the case when it comes to the dreaded Friend Zone.  It's not always just because we are lazy or scared or over-analyze the crap out of everything.  In fact, some people quickly find themselves already too deep in the FZ when they decide that they want to be more than just friends with someone.  Once you are in that deep, it's hard to find the motivation and the correct strategy/plan of action to get yourself out.

It's kind of like digging a hole in the ground and looking for treasure.  You're not quite sure what you will find but you really want to know what could potentially be there so you dig and you keep digging because it's exciting and you really want to see where the hole will lead. But alas, you don't find anything.  Zip.  Nada. Nothing.  You take a breather from digging because it's exhausting, you look up, and you realize that you are so deep that there is literally no way for you to climb out of the deep/dark hole. You are stuck.  Way stuck.  Once you've reach this point you have two ways out as I see it.  One. Yelling or waiting for someone outside of the hole to throw you a rope or a latter [plan of action] to help you pull yourself out.  Two. You decide if it's worth it to keep going, you take control of your life, and you keep digging until you are FOR SURE there is no hope of finding any treasure.

If you are deep in in the FZ and it's really getting to you then you have to get yourself out.  No matter what the outcome is. It's hard.  But it's SO do-able.  Either get someone to pull you out (have friends convince you that he/she is ugly, not worth it, or that you could do better [works every time] or find someone else to like if it's not really worth the work with said friend) or you keep digging until you find out what could be.  You might get rejected.  It might be super awkward.  Actually, it most likely will be awkward.  But if it's worth the FZ struggle you've been in for however long, then you have to at least try.  Who knows, maybe the other person has been ticked about the dumb FZ too and is just as stuck or already got themselves "over" it. 

No matter what the outcome... at least you would know.  Just get out so you can move along in which ever direction you are supposed to so you don't have to sit in the hole for years and then have to re coop from being in it for so long. ew.  vomit. not fun.
Need help?  Just say the magic words, "Phone Lines are Open" and I will take a stab at it.  Or just watch any episode of Dawson's Creek. haha.  That show is entirely about the Friend Zone and the positive and negative sides of getting yourself out of it.

Don't be a loser. Be a winner and take control of your life!