Alright. I admit it. Thanks to Amazon and it's 'LOOK INSIDE' capabilities, I was able to read the intro and first chapter to Danielle Staub, of Real Housewives of New Jersey's, memoir, "The Naked Truth."
Even though I'm not a big fan of her, I kind of want to read the rest of the book just to hear about this "Naked Truth" about her past and the things that we didn't see on screen. Really, there's is lots of drama up in that group and who knows what really is true. Her whole intro of the book (and most likely the point of the entire book) is to clear her name and to let people know what she wants them to know opposed to what they may have heard on the show or in the tabloids.
I don't know what she talks about in the rest of the book and if it is really true because obviously I don't know her and I don't know her business.. but I really appreciated something she said in her intro. She said:
"There are no two sides to one's life story. If you didn't live it, it's not yours to speak of."
Danielle's words got me thinking (yes, two words that I never thought I would use in one sentence). I've always heard the saying "there are two sides to every story" and yes, two people may see a certain situation in two different ways and are most likely effected from these situations differently. However, when it comes down to it, the way that we are effected from each situation and the things that we personally go through become part of our life story.
Your story most likely isn't all happy and comes with sprinkles of lies, betrayals and heartbreaks but it is your personal story; who knows it better than yourself? ...I am the only one who can really say how I feel and am effected in certain situations and the only one who can decipher my intentions. Not you (and vise versa).
I know I'm judgmental sometimes and jump to hasty conclusions but Danielle's right... Who are we to say what people are currently going through and feeling or even what they did or did not do in their past (yes there are times where we know people are flat out lying..but who cares if it's not effecting me?) The fact is, some people will flat out spread rumors about you at one point in your life. The key is to remember that you know what is true. You know your life story and how it really goes!
Thanks Danielle. I'm going to try to be more sensitive about people's life stories. I can't promise I won't critique things (ie fashion and everyday behaviors and social awkwardness) but I really need to work on being more sensitive about others sincere feelings.
Lets try to speak truth about people and make it positive! It may be a challenge and we won't be perfect at it but as long as we try...that's a start :)